As you may or may not have noticed, I recently took a pretty long break from blogging, which has become my favorite creative outlet, to make some pretty big AND SCARY AF life changes.. Like making the decision to leave my job of over two years to figure out what I really want and pursue a new gig, all while still being kinda fresh in a new city. Throughout this process I've learned so much about myself, leading me to figure out the one thing that comes between me and what I want. And that one thing is definitely not something that's unique to me, so let me explain what I mean..
Over the last couple of years I have gained a ton of experience, created amazing friendships with my coworkers, and became really comfortable with my job. Sounds great, right? Nope. (Ok, the first two parts YES, but the last part not quite.) I became so comfortable in my position that I felt the undeniable urge to do something else because I was no longer motivated. I think for some people comfort is all they need and they're happy with that, but for me, I felt like taking a leap of faith and going for the unknown was better than not giving the people around me 100%. So that's when I made up my mind that I had to move on.
I don't care what anyone says, any new change is scary, anxiety inducing, terrifying, you get it.. Unless you're literally the most carefree, confident person ever then hey, I'll have what you're having. Even when you're just switching jobs within your industry, there's a lot you don't know and will have to learn and being the newbie is so awkward, it's painful. But I'm going to let you in on a secret that will make your new endeavors a lot easier. Ready?
All of the anxiety you assign to the unknown is exactly what stands between you and what you want, which is better known as fear, and you create it yourself.
I know, fascinating, I just made the craziest discovery ever! I'm being sarcastic, but really when you think about it, I guarantee you don't tell yourself "oh that's just fear talking, I'm the best, I'm going to crush it, no worries" when you're thinking about making an important change. What you're probably saying to yourself are things like "am I ready? is it worth it? am I capable enough? do I really know what I want?" even though you know the answer to all of those is likely "yes". But you might, like me at one point, let those questions talk you into believing you aren't ready or capable and that's when you truly miss out on something amazing.
So I did it.. I went searching for something new, took the job, and I'm really happy. There's definitely some pressure, but I take everything one day at a time. You don't need to be perfect day one, how could you be? You just need to be positive and willing to try, fail, and try again.
I also figured out the one thing that will always try to come between me and what I want, which is fear, and that fear is created by me. So really, the only one stopping me is me and stopping you is you.