Since I just made my second move post-college, I figured it's time to share some things I've learned from moving to a city where I knew no one and leaving to move to a city where I know what feels like everyone.
Both moves have definitely shaped my perspective by making me sit back and evaluate what makes me happy, what I've taken for granted, and where I want to end up. Even though I can't really say I know where I'll end up, I think I know how I'm going to get there and how to be patient with the process (kinda). Anyways, keep scrolling for a few things I think every girl should know about making a big move to a city where you don't know anyone..
Life Lesson #1: It's probably going to be really awkward and uncomfortable at first.
Moving to a city where you know no one after being close to family and friends you've known for years is extremely anxiety inducing and uncomfortable. It can make you feel really insecure and unsure of yourself, even if you think you are a confident person who has already tackled your insecurities. I've come to find out that this feeling is totally normal for someone who is in their early 20s and is trying to figure out who they are as an adult - who knew! Ha! But I promise, it will pass. Take some time to accept that a lot of changes are happening and you will soon find your place just like you found it at your new high school, when you moved with your family, and any other time you had to make a big change.
Life Lesson #2: Reach out to someone in your network who lives in the same town.
Reaching out to someone in your past or a friend of a friend goes a long way when you move to a new city where you don't know many people. A lot of times they have been or are in the same situation as you and can relate to where you're coming from. There's always something comforting in connecting with someone you share something in common with, even if you don't have the same interests or personalities. They can give you a sense of home that's hard to find with your new friends. Cherish these people, if they're there for you now they'll most likely be great friends for a lifetime.
Life Lesson #3: Reach out to someone who's also new in town.
When you move to a new town you can get really focused on yourself and forget that there are other people around who are in the same situation. I caught myself thinking a lot about how the people I met "already have their friend groups" and "probably don't have any interest in me" and how this "wasn't my real life", it was back at home with my friends I've known for years. But the reality is, this is your real life and there are other people in it that you can be reaching out to. So take a second to look around.. you might just find your new best friend sitting next to you at work and she might just be going through the same thing you are. Hint, hint.
Life Lesson #4: Always say yes to new opportunities (obviously the ones that are good for you).
Push yourself to be as outgoing as possible, even if you are somewhat of an introvert. There will be people you meet that can introduce you to new things and people, but you have to reach back out to them no matter how awkward you feel. Hey, I met one of my best friends and roommates through an Instagram DM because I met her friend at a happy hour, haha! #slideintothedm
Life Lesson #5: Have fun, don't take yourself too seriously.
Seriously tho. There's no time for that. It's going to be a blast, as long as you make it one!
I hope this helps you realize you're not alone in your new life change and you'll make it through with some great people and awesome times.
Post about moving to a city where you know a lot of people to come soon.. We're still figuring that one out.